As the title very blatantly states, I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of six and half months. Stop right there, I'll say it for you. Y'all are so young! It's not worth it! You're not going to have the full college experience! Shut up. These are all things I heard from this 21 year old girl as I was sitting outside my friends' residence hall just talking and meeting new people. The girl, Baltimore, cause she's from Maryland, heard me mention that I didn't want to be the lame one and skip a frat party to skype my boyfriend, but that's probably what I was going to end up doing. She, very condescendingly, said "Oh! You're in a long distance relationship? Tell me about him!" So I told the story of how we ended up dating and everything and then she went on a whole rant about how last semester she spent the whole time in a long distance relationship, with a guy from fucking D.C.!, not a guy five hours away like C. And she just had tunnel vision and she always wanted to break up but he would always convince her to stay with him. Well bitch, I'm 99% sure I'm going to marry this kid. So back the fuck off. She then said "You've only been together six and half months and you think you're going to spend the rest of your life with him??!?!" Yes. This whole thing went on for about fifteen minutes, with my friend A.G agreeing with her and this girl I just met A.R backing me up, she's nice. I like her. So now I'm in even less of a mood to go to some frat party where I'm going to be judged on what I'm wearing if I can get in to hang out with a bunch of douche bags because some girl, who kept saying "You're young, you're young." bitch is three fucking years older than I am, decides to shit all over my relationship. Yes, I am an idealistic person. I think I can save Africa. But what I do in my free time and who I decide to be with, is nobody else's fucking business. Basically what I think it comes down to is people throw rocks at things that shine because they're so unhappy with their pathetic lives to be genuinely happy for someone who just might have found the love of their lives at the age of 18. I'm not judging her for being a 21 year old sophomore, don't judge me and act all holier than thou because you had one shitty experience with an over controlling guy who lives like, 22 hours away (I admit, I google mapped how far D.C was from where I am.) So, ladies and gentlemen, if you every happen to run into someone who's in a long distance relationship, whatever your opinion is, especially if it's a negative one, they've heard before and sure as shit don't need to hear it again. Just wish them the best and hope that it works out for them. Because we need a whole lot more love in the world, so why would you tell someone that their's isn't real or strong enough or going to last? It literally has zero affect on you what so ever.
still seething, taylor
ps. my apologies for the language in this post, but I'm really fucking livid.
Friday, August 31, 2012
Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Women are Three Dimensional
E has inspired me once again in a way that only E can do :] She sent me this article
http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/2zkS0e/:swUx7PKY:PfDAGE66/www.elle.com/Life-Love/Sex-Relationships/Walter-Kirn-on-Sex-Appeal/
which I advise you take the five minutes to read instead of skimming over it like it is always so tempting to do. Readdyyyy, go!
All right. At first, I loved it. Really did. I was like, yay! "Plain" girls getting noticed! Femininity and sexuality come in all shapes and sizes! And then I started to think. All shapes and sizes. So then, why are the stereotypically pretty girls automatically written off? If I were to go out clubbing (as I've only done once and it was a total disaster, which included E, P and C) then I'd definitely dress up! Put on those uncomfortable glass slippers the writer harps on and on about and do my hair and put on a freak 'em dress, etc. Now, I don't consider any of my friends plain. I think they're all unbelievably stunning (which could be a testament to their awesome personalities as well as genetics. who knows) but even if one of them put on flats because they're easier to dance in and a more comfortable outfit, that doesn't mean they're automatically more interesting or less pretty than I am. Yes, people, especially women, express themselves through their clothing. I sure as hell do. But you cannot immediately assume one girl is a snobby, self-satisfied bitch who only drug the other, less vibrant but also more intellectual girl along because she'd make her, the bitch, look better. This is just another example of men compartmentalizing women into neat, one dimensional categories so it's easier for them to pick from the grand selection of pussy set out for them. Okay, okay. This guy really is looking for something special. For someone of substance to have a conversation that may lead to a meaningful relationship with. But who's to say the "prettier" girl can't give him that? Why can't women be fashionable and intelligent? Primped and intriguing? The writer seems to be trying to live by the whole don't-judge-a-book-by-it's-cover mantra but is instead perpetuating it by discriminating against girls with fake tans and boob jobs. You know what? Maybe that beauty pageant pretty girl is a feminist who just likes the way she looks in that dress or with that nose job? It doesn't have to be because society told her to surgically perfect herself or because she's trying to please some guy. It is possible for a girl to look good for herself, not for a condescending male who's trying really hard to appeal to feminists. But feminists shouldn't be about putting down the mainstream form a pretty to make themselves feel better. We should be about lifting up all women of literally all shapes and sizes, including 00 and enlarged bra sizes. No one second guesses a hot male brain surgeon's intelligence if his face is symmetrical and he has well fitted pants. Why do we have to immediately label all conventionally pretty girls uninteresting? This article really frustrated me because this guy is trying to read into people's souls just by judging what they're wearing. Dude. It's a dress that makes my ass look good while pop lockin' and droppin' it on girls' night out. Calm the fuck down.
xxo taylor.
http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/2zkS0e/:swUx7PKY:PfDAGE66/www.elle.com/Life-Love/Sex-Relationships/Walter-Kirn-on-Sex-Appeal/
which I advise you take the five minutes to read instead of skimming over it like it is always so tempting to do. Readdyyyy, go!
All right. At first, I loved it. Really did. I was like, yay! "Plain" girls getting noticed! Femininity and sexuality come in all shapes and sizes! And then I started to think. All shapes and sizes. So then, why are the stereotypically pretty girls automatically written off? If I were to go out clubbing (as I've only done once and it was a total disaster, which included E, P and C) then I'd definitely dress up! Put on those uncomfortable glass slippers the writer harps on and on about and do my hair and put on a freak 'em dress, etc. Now, I don't consider any of my friends plain. I think they're all unbelievably stunning (which could be a testament to their awesome personalities as well as genetics. who knows) but even if one of them put on flats because they're easier to dance in and a more comfortable outfit, that doesn't mean they're automatically more interesting or less pretty than I am. Yes, people, especially women, express themselves through their clothing. I sure as hell do. But you cannot immediately assume one girl is a snobby, self-satisfied bitch who only drug the other, less vibrant but also more intellectual girl along because she'd make her, the bitch, look better. This is just another example of men compartmentalizing women into neat, one dimensional categories so it's easier for them to pick from the grand selection of pussy set out for them. Okay, okay. This guy really is looking for something special. For someone of substance to have a conversation that may lead to a meaningful relationship with. But who's to say the "prettier" girl can't give him that? Why can't women be fashionable and intelligent? Primped and intriguing? The writer seems to be trying to live by the whole don't-judge-a-book-by-it's-cover mantra but is instead perpetuating it by discriminating against girls with fake tans and boob jobs. You know what? Maybe that beauty pageant pretty girl is a feminist who just likes the way she looks in that dress or with that nose job? It doesn't have to be because society told her to surgically perfect herself or because she's trying to please some guy. It is possible for a girl to look good for herself, not for a condescending male who's trying really hard to appeal to feminists. But feminists shouldn't be about putting down the mainstream form a pretty to make themselves feel better. We should be about lifting up all women of literally all shapes and sizes, including 00 and enlarged bra sizes. No one second guesses a hot male brain surgeon's intelligence if his face is symmetrical and he has well fitted pants. Why do we have to immediately label all conventionally pretty girls uninteresting? This article really frustrated me because this guy is trying to read into people's souls just by judging what they're wearing. Dude. It's a dress that makes my ass look good while pop lockin' and droppin' it on girls' night out. Calm the fuck down.
xxo taylor.
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